Why do some songs make us cry?

The musical and psychological mechanisms that trigger tears during emotional songs.

Music and Tears

Music is one of the most reliable ways to induce crying. But why do certain combinations of sounds trigger such powerful emotional responses?

Musical Triggers for Tears

Research identifies specific musical elements that induce crying:

1. Appoggiaturas
- "Leaning" notes that clash before resolving
- Create tension and release
- Common in Adele's music

2. Unexpected Chord Changes
- Harmonic surprises trigger emotional responses
- Minor chords in major progressions
- Deceptive cadences

3. Melodic Contour
- Rising then falling melodies mimic crying
- "Sighing" musical figures
- Descending phrases suggest sadness

4. Dynamic Swells
- Building from quiet to loud
- Creates overwhelming sensation
- Releases tension physically

The Prolactin Response

Sad music triggers prolactin release—the same hormone associated with:

  • Comfort and nurturing
  • Post-crying relief
  • Bonding and attachment

This creates pleasure from sadness—without real-world consequences.

Personal Associations

Songs make us cry when connected to:

  • Memories of lost loved ones
  • Past relationships
  • Life transitions
  • Nostalgia for earlier times

The music itself may be neutral, but associations make it devastating.

Famous Tear-Jerkers

  • "Hallelujah" - Leonard Cohen
  • "Tears in Heaven" - Eric Clapton
  • "The Show Must Go On" - Queen
  • "Hurt" - Johnny Cash version
  • "Landslide" - Fleetwood Mac